Lost in messes

Fear, anxiety, and frustration flood all over me that I couldn't take a breath. It is going to be compeletly over if it goes on like this. I want and need to be stronger at the moment. There is nothing much that I think I can do to make things work again for us unless maybe we both try but it is very unlikely to happen at the moment. He viciously pushed me out of the room and angrily ended the conversation after I started to talk with him last Sunday evening by asking him" do you think that I am difficult to communicate with?". I don't know how I can bend over any more while giving myself some respect. We live in different planets. He loves staying in, reading (long time), watching video clips, no social life and his work at the moment. But I love staying in occassionally for weekend but going out for walks is always nice option for me. I love doing yoga, sports too (badmiton, pingpong, volleyball...however haven't played them for ages), I also enjoy reading, watching films, sometimes cooking and shopping. But more so I like social life that doesn't require everyday partying. Everything is going well with him and he doesn't want to ruin it, I understand. The same applies to me as well. I am keeping my work in control but it seems everything else is falling apart. In order to be with him, I have given up so much the last 8 years. My jobs, family, and friends... I have been submissive to him and appolagetic about fights we both have faults for.
Now, when I start to stand for myself, he is not used to it anymore. If things that he does not care, it is fine. But if he cares about certain things, there is no compromising can be expected from him. He cares about his own time and that is great, but he wants to spend those time on things he appreciates. If he has to spend sometime that he doesn't have much interests in, he seems there but he is not. He prefers to spend time by himself. This can go on and on...
There are some fundamental differences between us in terms of time, social life, hobby, personality in general. Now at least I realize those problems, he thinks that is my problem.
All I can think of now, is doing my own work and concerntrating on things I can do. Do what ever I can do to make the best out of these three years.